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How old are your children? Boys? Girls?
I have two children. A 3 1/2 year old boy and a 1 1/2 year old girl.
What were your plans for working once you became a mom?
I had never originally planned to be a SAHM. I was working as a social worker and after I got pregnant, we sat down and punched the numbers for daycare. We realized my net earnings would be next to nothing. We also have no family close and my husband works long hours, so I would have to figure out a job that allowed me to do all the pick-ups, drop-offs, sick days, etc., so it would have been really hard.
It is still so difficult to make ends meet, but we really work to be creative about ways to save money. It's also important for us to accept this is our season of life right now. Maybe someday there will be more vacations or dinners out, but we're so tired running after these kiddos, the energy for going out is pretty limited anyway ;)
What powerful force or idea within pulled you into the blogosphere?
I was going through a pretty eventful time. My daughter was just born, my grandmother had just passed, my sister got married, we had some financial issues, and my mom was dying. I had never considered starting a blog before, but one day something sort of snapped, if you will. I picked up my laptop and started writing. I believe God gave me this outlet to process what was going on around me, and it was wonderful!
How long have you been blogging? Where do you want your blog to go?
I have been blogging for almost a year and a half. I have no idea where I want it to go! I have been totally thrown by the amount of work it takes to keep up with it, but it has been such a huge blessing in so many ways. Many days it feels like a job, but there are also loads of moments that it is pure fun. I don't have more time to make it bigger or try to write for other outlets right now, so I think I will continue with it until I feel firmly called to stop. Or maybe in the future, more doors will open? I'm trying to just remain accepting of wherever it goes.
What is your relationship to blogging? Is it more like how one feels about a Cheetos addiction or a yoga habit?
I don't do yoga and I try not to let myself eat Cheetos, so I don't know! Somedays I love it, some days I hate it. I do believe it is something I am supposed to be doing right now, so I am trying hard to balance the time commitment with the rest of life and not get too swallowed up in it.
Your best FML Mommy moment?
I am so lame, I had to look up what this meant! Oh gosh, can I say every day? I 100% do NOT have a handle on this motherhood thing. I am the mother chasing after her shoeless screaming toddler in the preschool parking lot in the middle of winter. I like to say I earn my Mom of the Year title one epic parenting fail at a time.
Most recently, when my son got into a tube of Vaseline when he was supposed to be napping and smeared it all over his hair, the bedding, and the carpet, I screamed, freaked out and told him that he had to get back in bed and not move while I cleaned it up or I was going to call the police. I though that was a pretty rockstar moment.
You go into a Gap that has women's and kids clothes. Do you treat yourself or the kids?
The kids. I'm a psycho bargain-hunter, and could never justify the prices unless something was actually NEEDED. My clothes might be so "last-year", but they still fit!
What would you like to change the most about your parenting style?
I want to be calmer, more relaxed. I hate being this busy all the time!
Speaking of guilty pleasures, what are a few of yours?
Star magazine, Diet Coke, wine and pretending my son is napping so I can blog (thus the Vaseline incident).
What advice would you give to mom bloggers?
I am trying too hard to figure out balance, so I don't think I'm qualified to advise anyone! I do know that I keep trying to focus on what is really important in this life. I think that looks completely different for everyone, but I never want to look back on anything with regret, you know?
Not that I know anything about this, but husbands often have mixed feelings about their wives' mom blogging. How is this issue in your family?
My husband has been really awesome about supporting the blog. He does all of my site support, which I couldn't begin to do to save my life. He also reads my posts and listens to me talk about the blogging world ad nauseum. He knows who my blogging friends are by name, even he's never met them!
I'm not saying he understands it, or doesn't get cranky when I am constantly checking in or stealing moments away to write, but he is supportive. Blogging is a hard thing to support because it takes so much time and there is very little financial return (at least for me!). I don't know if we could keep up the energy level of this for forever, but for right now, he gets that it is important to me.